People Power Skills: Social Emotional Learning

The People Power skills we practice as part of our social curriculum in the Lower School are helpful in several ways. The children seem empowered to take better care of themselves and others. They use the People Power language to ask for what they need and to get help. They can often recognize and name behaviors that make them feel both cared for and hurt. It is rewarding to see the students grow their “People Power” skills and practice being the best friends they can be.

Stepping Up
• Raise your hand more often to share your ideas
• Speak up when people are being mistreated
Stepping Down
• Let other people lead sometimes
• Give everyone a chance to think up their own answer
Turning Towards
• Notice when people are asking for your attention
• Use your eyes, shoulders and your voice to show people that you care  
• Watch and listen before joining a group
• Join in a way that matches the group’s volume, mood and style
Calm Tone
• Use a calm tone even when you feel excited
• Use a calm tone even when you are working through conflict
Shop Talk
• Keep your partner talk on the school subject (math, reading etc.)
Polite Points
• Ask before you reach
• Use “please” and “thank you” with everyone
• Say “excuse me” in a kind tone when you need space
Bouncing Back
• Let go of a conflict after you have talked it over
• Lift your mood by focusing on something new after a disappointment
• Stop when someone respectfully asks you to stop
• Play games with each friend in the way they want to be played with
Sweet Talk
• Speak kindly to others
• Say things that make others feel cared for
New Connections
• Invite a new friend to play during choice or recess
• Sit and talk with someone new during snack or lunch
Mood Detector
• Notice people’s body language and facial expressions
• Take action based on people’s mood
Jumping In
• Use a strong, clear voice when you ask to join a new game
Question Help
• Use a question to check in with a friend when you think they might be making a mistake
Eye Contact
• Keep your eyes on the person speaking
• Use eye contact with everyone
• Explain your role in accidents or not-ok behavior
• Show you understand
how other people feel
• Take action to repair
your mistake
• Offer sincere and specific compliments to everyone, especially when someone seems to be having a hard time
• Say things out loud if your words are kind and helpful
• Don’t say things that are
not kind or not helpful

St. Paul's Episcopal School
116 Montecito Avenue
Oakland, CA 94610